"This journey is so simple,
yet we complicate it."
When we are born, we are like sponges; soaking up everything around us. We are constantly learning and discovering. Part of our discovering is finding out who we are and what we need and want in order to make this an enjoyable and memorable journey. As part of our journey we look for validation. We just want to be noticed, needed and loved.
The problem is that throughout our journey we are constantly told how to act, what to like and who to dislike. Many of us go through life feeling that we are not in control of our own lives. From the beginning we are told to conform to the expectations of our family, our peers, our church, our job and our society. This leaves so many of us without a sense of .self. because our .self. has not been allowed to shine through.
Therefore the only way we can know who we are is through our relationships. We use our associations with our family, our church, our jobs and our possessions to remind us of who we are and where and what we are in relation to all others around us. When we lose our associations, we feel lost and alone. We have not learned how to have a relationship with ourselves.
The Mouradian Model for Cooperative Action© can help you discover who you are. It will also show you how to validate others and how others will validate you.
Cooperative Action Tenets
- The individual is celebrated as the foundation of all relationships.
- All individuals should be allowed to do anything they want, as long as they don.t knowingly adversely affect the planet or anyone on it.
- All relationships are based on constant negotiation of boundaries by using respectful, honest, and direct communication in order to bring a clear understanding to all of our interactions.
- Each person involved in a relationship should always be looking for a balance and equilibrium in order to create a Cooperative Action without losing a sense of self.
- No one person in a relationship has power or ownership over any other person, or persons, in the relationship. There must be a sense of mutual trust and respect.
- Not all relationships are meant to be. One person.s views and boundaries may not be compatible with another. This is when we understand that .acceptance is not necessarily agreement., and (where necessary) it may be time to walk away.